Well it appears you got the answers needed for the bull bar.
For the lights. you would probably want some off road lights, maybe 6" diameter. Your choice on what you want to get out of them. If you just want some fogs, thats fine, get some 55w halogens. Many brands out there. KC are expensive, but they have that nice 23 year warranty. You can just run a switch to the inside of your cab for those.
Sold:2004 XLT 4x2 Ext. Cab. 3.0 Mods: 3" spindle, AAL, shackle, 32x11.5 on 15x8s, billet grille, clear corners, flow 40 dumped, line-x, CB/PA, traction bars, lil sound system, auto up down windows
Sold:2005 XLT 4x4 Ext. Cab. 4.0 Mods: ProComp lights w/ HID swap on tabs, 32x11.5 on 15x8s, CB/PA, black out heads/corners, lil sound system, cranked t-bars, flow 40 dumped, line-x, shell, bed rug, 06+ tails, metal tail gate handle since plastic one shattered, OHC, Mustang Dome.